My son & I started early on Saturday morning for a day out at farm, en route we stopped for breakfast. We were discussing some random topics that have been troubling him and out of the blue he made said “Nanna (dad), I am really confused about GOD“,
I tried to understand more about his confusion and tried to ask, what is making GOD so confusing.
Son started to explain – “I understood from movies, and other discussions that GOD is present everywhere and we do just what GOD wants us to do (Jagannata Sutradhari), it is GOD who makes us do all the activities. He makes us good deeds and he makes us bad deeds, and also punishes (fries in oil) for all the Bad deeds we do in Narakam (Hell). Why should GOD make us do bad and punish us again, it is not fair”.
I was really impressed with his thought process at this young age and his questioning intelligence. I was feeling good about his friends too, as there must be something the friends might have added in this curiosity. I was awestruck because when I was 10 years old, I couldn’t have thought anything close to it.
I did not want to answer him right there as we were almost done with our breakfast and also wanted to check if it was one of random question or he really needed help on (checking if he is ready for it or not).
The entire day he enjoyed in the farm with puppies, and in the evening we were taking a stroll in the farm, he again raised the same question – “I am confused about GOD, he does everything to us and again punishes us, not fair”
Now I understood, that there is something troubling him and I need to help him. Did not want to dump on him too much information, some of it might be much above his understanding, but wanted to ask him lot of questions for him to discover the solution. I am presenting the discussion in narrative form rather than dialog which is tedious (will leave it to your dramatization)
My inner thoughts
I really wanted to explain “Everything is done by GOD (Kartha, Karma, Kriya), the good deeds, bad deeds, the punishments, the rewards, the happy moments and the sorrows. For that matter the body we have also is HIS own, it is illusion (Maya) that it is ours, we are part of him and we are just remote control robots with life nothing more”. I hesitated that explanation because he might not understand it completely and did not want him to disown every action in his life like a situation below
I did not want to face a situation where he breaks the glass, and when I question him, he answers “Dad, I did not break it, it was GOD who broke it, and it is not our glass, it is kept with us for me to break it, it is all designed by GOD, even you shouting at me and me giving you this explanation is all designed and happening as per GOD.”
I wanted to take this opportunity to explain something about life more than the GOD, I have my own perspective of GOD and each ones perspective is different from others. I used GOD and tried to make as much sense to the context of his question but bring in the qualitative change in him. Question is the first towards to self growth and quality of the questions will decide the quality of your life is what I believe in.
Conversation with son
We sat on a small rock in the farm with two puppies jumping on us with excitement, started explaining him
GOD actually gives you everything you need to handle a situation and it is your choice to how you use it. He did not seem to have understood (as expected), I continued explaining with simple examples of his life.
[Farmer] – GOD gave you seeds, water, sunlight, soil, people, money, equipment, it is what you do with all these available things will decide what you get.
You are a farmer right, last year you sowed the paddy, did you just sow, and leave it or did we actually took care of it, with proper watering, proper de-weeding, spraying jeevamrutam and neem oils and harvest it, dry it and only then we got the rice we wanted right. We did not say, GOD here are the seeds, you get me the rice after few months. NO, we do not.
[Context Setting] – You live in a good apartment community, you have lot of friends, you have good family, you have good health. GOD actually gave you all these thing and he also gave you a LED TV, you have access to nearly 300+ channels, gave you access to few smartphones at home which has 24/7 high speed internet, you have many Youtube channels, you have few home games like chess or Rubik’s cube.
[Abundance] – It is GODs love towards you in giving you everything you needed, not many people have all these things, NOW it is your choice of how you utilize these available things that decide how your future is going to be.
[Fitnesse] – You can use the Smartphone to learn something (craft, tricks, science) interesting which can help you in your life. You can waste this time by playing some non helpful game running behind the gold while being chased by ghost, you end up neither getting the gold, nor you will get fitter by running in smart phone, you become fat, you will not get six packs (he is excited about it).
[Continuous improvement ] – You can play multiple games of Chess physically or on tablets, where you can learn the tricks and continuously improve your game, not everyone knows that there is something called as Chess exists. You are blessed to know and have people to play for you. You can choose to play or not play, GOD has nothing to do with it, it is your action or inaction.
[Life] – If you are alone, you can try solve the Rubik’s cube, and try to understand how simple flips can impact multiple sides of the cube, and understand how to fix it, which in-turn helps you learn the game of life and how each move impacts multiple facades of life
[Action] – You see my dumbbells (GOD gave) at home, just by looking at them will muscles improve or if you use them and exercise your muscles develop??
[Book Reading] – You have choice of reading books and watching TV, reading books gives you knowledge of your choice and your thinking capability gets sharpened, while watching TV you have to listen to what they say, and you will be forced to believe what they want to say. Choice is yours, GOD gave you both.
While my entire focus for now is to make him understand the power he has with in and the righteousness of his choices, working towards implementing those choices into actions, owning the actions with responsibility and continuously improving upon them.
To me GOD is personal, even my GOD is totally different to my son.
GOD is a “work in progress” topic and continuous process for many and I am not an exception.